Communication is critical in building a strong relationship with your spouse as well as other people you associate with on a daily basis. Over the years my wife and I have gotten much better at effectively communicating with one another in a more productive and healthy way. Effective communication is ensuring what is being said makes the other person feel that they have been heard and understood. My wife and I have gained a stronger connection with one another by being there emotionally, engaged in what the other is saying or not saying through better communication. Being open creates a healthy environment to discuss all things that matter to each of us or just free to say what we’re thinking.
It’s positively amazing what will happen when you become more attentive and interested in what the other is saying. Just simply stopping to listen without thinking what to say next will open up a whole new world. I definitely had to practice and still do. Listening allows you to pick up on how the other is feeling even when they may say, “I’m fine.” I do my best to listen to show respect and that I care about what is being said. It is a great time to learn more about them.
- Being engaged with full undivided attention
There’s nothing worse than when you’re trying to have a conversation with someone and they seem unengaged or distracted by something. Making eye contact and letting the other person know you are paying attention is not just polite, you are present. With small windows of time that I have with my family, typically during the week, I like to leave my phone in the car as it can be a huge distraction.
- Being assertive
When speaking with each other, I believe that it is good to be assertive and clear in what you’re trying to convey. This also takes a lot of practice. While it is beneficial to be assertive in getting your point across, it is also very beneficial to be clear and admit when you are wrong or not correct.
- Setting aside quality time face to face
Face to face communication is the most effective and healthy way to communicate in my
opinion. By devoting specific times together my wife and I are able to have more meaningful conversations. We are able to build stronger relationship and
increase our trust for one another. You simply can’t replace the feeling face to face.
- Body language
Paired with face to face communication you are more readily able to see and interpret body language. From a roll of the eyes, a smile, the crossing of the arms to all the subtleties that can be communicated without saying a word, body language can say quite a lot. Really picking up on my wife’s queues and uniqueness has done a great deal for our marriage.
Today is a good day start, let’s communicate more effectively with those we care about.
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Life is about family commitment and all that comes with it. Be your best for yourself, family and everyone around you.
My wife and I have been married since August 2009. It has had its ups and downs along the way, but the most incredible thing about our marriage is that it continues to grow and flourish. I love my wife more now than I did when we first got married. The number one most crucial part of our marriage that I believe enables us to become more connected and close is our absolute commitment to each other. From there; love, respect, happiness, communication, finances and all things necessary to build a strong foundation, help us to achieve a fuller life that spreads to every other part of our lives.
Together we are now beginning to raise a family. We have a little girl Lena who is now 1 ½ years old and beginning to become her own person. To be our best selves is critical, as we have the huge responsibility of raising a child whom will hopefully become a wonderful human being. To provide her with the necessary life tools and a solid foundation from which to grow, we want to teach her everything that we have learned along the way. In my opinion, commitment to each other also encompasses your physical, mental, emotional and financial stability. Listening to one another and asking how your day was or is there anything I can do to help. It involves the day to day as well as dreaming about what the future may hold.
What I plan on setting out to do and continuing to learn as I put words to paper is to provide insight from others, share personnel experiences and dig deeper into our commitments, because it’s our responsibility. I want to constantly improve to do my best, create a positive home, raise internally motivated children, teach accountability, confidence, respect and finance to name a few. There is also of course the joy of all the other things in between, from family activities to potty training, which we are just now attempting. I can’t wait to take a break from changing poopy diapers.
Without a solid foundation and commitment to family, how are we supposed to be productive employees, leaders and members of society? I believe that how you are in one aspect of your life is how you will be in all aspects of life and your interactions with everyone around you and what you do outside the home. The tools we use at home also apply to the world around us from how we treat people to budgeting or even planning.
Commitment to family to achieve happiness and success in all that life has to offer and to help others realize and achieve what matters to them. I am not an expert and have failed many times, but I have remembered my commitment. I continue to improve and learn from my mistakes and try to be as open and caring has I can. I have faith that if I continue to listen and learn, I will be guided down the path to prosper.